Tripping or Not Tripping? | Funkidivagirl.com

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My friend Renee likes to play this game, “tripping or not tripping;” she tells me what happened and asks if the offending party was out of line (tripping) or not.

So let’s play: Tripping or Not Tripping?

Picture this: I am at a school function chatting with my husband and two male parents/friends–let’s call them Tweedle Dee and Tweedle Dum.

I say to my husband, “Can you give me a ride? It’s too hot to walk back home.”

And Tweedle Dum says, “Oh don’t be a _____.”

(Think: a vulgar word that juvenile guys use for “wimp” that is also a name for a cat.)

Get it?

Now, I didn’t hear this. But my husband (foolishly, in my opinion) said, “Did you hear what he called you?” And repeated it.

Say what?

Tweedle Dum must have been loopy from the heat or something because

I. Don’t. Play. That.

But I was very close to other parents and children. I couldn’t do what I wanted to do…..which was to read him up and down, inside and out.

And when I get going, there is no off button. It would have been UGLY, right there in front of the whole school.

So, against my nature, I did nothing.

And I’m still mad.

My verdict: HE WAS TRIPPING.

So tell me what you think: Tripping or Not Tripping? What would have you done in that situation? Cuss him out or let it ride?

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He was trippin! First of all, you weren’t even talking to him. You asked key influencer for a ride home so I can’t see why Tweedle Dum felt the need to respond. You weren’t asking him to use his gas. I don’t think I would have cussed him out because men are dumb when it comes to the “proper” things to say to women. They talk to us just like they would talk to their “boys”. Don’t be mad, just let it ride.

He was definitely trippin’! I think you handled it well so as to not make a scene at school. You may want to call him or send him an email letting him know that you were taken aback/offended. This will give you an opportunity to convey your feelings and to let him know that what he said was NOT cool…..

Gurl, you look like you might cut somebody if they cross you. I cannot believe someone in their right mind would come out of their face like that… At a school no less. He was tripping for sure, but YOU, on the other hand, would not be tripping if you cussed him clean out.

Krystal, you need to quit trippin…..only some men are dumb when it comes to saying the wrong things….LOL Funkidivagirl, as much as it pains me to say you behaved appropriately, I must. Letting that small minded person bate you into a verbal altercation would have been ugly. Krystal said it best…Let it ride. But he was trippin!

Yup, he was trippin.

1. A man shouldn’t talk like that in mixed company. Apparently he was raised in a barn.

2. A man should never address a woman that way. I am not your boy; show some respect.

3. He was at a school function, in a park, at 1:00 in the afternoon. Not in a locker room or at a bar.

4. There were children nearby. Enough said.

5. I have known him long enough and spent enough time with him, that he should know that I don’t get down like that. He has never even heard me utter one swear word.

I could go on, the list is long….

The man was tripping, but Hubby was really tripping…he heard the wimp make the comment. Why didn’t he check the man?

That’s true Dawn. Hubby said he checked him later that same day, BUT he should have checked him immediately and I wouldn’t have even known it was said. A simple “whoa, watch it man” would have been enough to let him know not to cross that line again.

Agreed. So out of line and inappropriate. Who says that to a woman with children around?

Definitely TRIPPING!!! And Hubby too!!
Unfortunately, I posed this situation to my own hubby (as a hypothetical situation) and he said he would have probably reacted the same way. Thank keyinfluencer for providing a ‘teaching moment’ for my own husband so he now knows how to handle this situation, should it ever arise. Ladies like us shouldn’t even have to think about situations like that. That’s what husbands are for!!! If they can’t defend our honor when necessary, what’s the point? LOL!

Well, at least Tweedle Dum called me and apologized…that’s something.

DEFINITELY trippin’! His apology reeks of it. *side eye* to him and hubby in this case.

Yep he was trippin, but I’m mad at hubby for not correcting homey right then and there. And I know your hubby… really has he been outta NYC that long that he’s lost his edge?:) Hubby owes you a massage or something.
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Waaaay trippin’! I agree with Renee on the hubby piece. But glad to hear he has been since checked by hubby and that Tweedle Dum has apologized. This falls into the category of IWANW (I wish a *bleep* would!)

I wouldn’t care who was around, in an inside voice, I still would have told his behind off! lol
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Mad at hubby for not correcting. He was TRIPPIN and wrong as the day is long!
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Trippin for sure.. I agree you handled it the best way possible giving the surrounding. However, you should not have known until later because hubby should have handled it at that moment. You know Nat would have let him have it with full force.

I would have asked him to repeat what he said. If he said that cruel word then I would have said to them are you for real? And if he said yes then I would have told him to go to hell!
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Okay, clearly I’m in need of some “How to respond appropriately to wackness in front of children and other parents”, because 1. He was definitely trippin’, and 2. I would have likely ended up tripping a bit myself after asking him (in my outside voice w/ serious attitude) where in the bleepity blooop he got off calling me (or any other human being) that name.

Good for you for responding in such a mature way. One day, I’ll be able to do that too. *fingers crossed*
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He was beyond trippin! You handled it the way a grown-up should. I, on the other hand, would have lost it. How dare he!

Hugs and Mocha,
Stesha
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You should have said nothing. Walked up to him smiling, then slapped the shit out of him. Minimal exposure to other parents, maximum getting your point across.

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