Are You Secretly An Introvert?

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When I saw this TED Talk: The Power of Introverts by Susan Cain  it really gave me pause.  Before watching this talk I thought that introverts were nerdy, socially awkward loners who preferred their own company to those of friends.   And let’s face it, society praises extroverts and shames introverts, so who wants to admit being the latter?   While there is a continuum on the extrovert/introvert line – no one can be totally one or the other – watching this video I learned that being an introvert is not a bad thing.  It’s not about your social skills, it is more about how you respond to stimulation, what gives you energy (or zaps it) and what environments work best for you to be productive and creative.

And then when I read this article in the Huffington Post: 23 Signs That You’re Secretly An Introvert, these words made me think again:

Think you can spot an introvert in a crowd? Think again. Although the stereotypical introvert may be the one at the party who’s hanging out alone by the food table fiddling with an iPhone, the “social butterfly” can just as easily have an introverted personality.

People are frequently unaware that they’re introverts -– especially if they’re not shy — because they may not realize that being an introvert is about more than just cultivating time alone. Instead, it can be more instructive to pay attention to whether they’re losing or gaining energy from being around others, even if the company of friends gives them pleasure.

I raised my hand to several of the 23 signs in the article.  Could it be that I am a bit of an introvert?  Here are a few points that made me think:

You find small talk incredibly cumbersome.   As I load my groceries onto the belt at Whole Foods, I mentally prepare for the friendly chatter that is sure to come from the clerk about the weather or weekend.  I have gotten better about answering back within a socially acceptable length but really I would be fine with a “hello” and flashing a really nice smile.

Downtime doesn’t feel unproductive to you.  I need “me time.”  If I don’t get it, I go crazy.

Giving a talk in front of 500 people is less stressful than having to mingle with those people afterwards.  Mingling means small talk.  See point number 1.

You start to shut down after you’ve been active for too long.  I have tons of energy and can go for a very long time, but I am very in tune with my body and spirit and will honor myself when I am running on empty.  During the course of a normal weekday, this happens around 9:00 p.m.; that’s when I start to shut down and when I need to read or engage in quiet conversation with my husband.  If my daughter is not in bed and is still talking non-stop at 10:00 p.m., I am teetering on the brink.

You screen all your calls — even from friends.  You may not pick up your phone even from people you like, but you’ll call them back as soon as you’re mentally prepared and have gathered the energy for the conversation.  Luckily the people that know and love me call anyway and will leave a message like “I know you don’t like to talk on the phone but…”    And then I call them back when I am mentally prepared.   I do like talking to my friends – I just don’t like being caught off guard.  I prefer face-to-face communication; I know that I am going to see you and I am fully prepared and happy to be engaged in conversation.

You have a constantly running inner monologue.   I’m always dictating notes to Siri or writing on scraps of paper trying to empty my brain.   There is a lot going on in there!

You’re a writer.  Yes.  And in general I am most productive and creative when I have periods of solitude and silence.  Although I don’t want to always be alone….

You alternate between phases of work and solitude, and periods of social activity.  As much as I relish my own company, I am also always organizing dinners, parties, lunches and get-aways with friends.    As long as there is a balance, I am happy.

You go to parties -– but not to meet people.  I go to parties to see the people that I already know – the people who invited me and other friends that I haven’t seen in a long time.   Sometimes it is nice to meet new people and make new friends, but that only happens if they engage in real conversation.  See point number 1.

This song by Alessia Cara, “Here”, is currently one of my favorite songs.  Besides a wickedly hypnotic beat, the lyrics poetically demonstrate how an introvert can feel at a party.

Excuse me if I seem a little unimpressed with this
An anti-social pessimist but usually I don’t mess with this
And I know you mean only the best and
Your intentions aren’t to bother me
But honestly I’d rather be
Somewhere with my people we can kick it and just listen
To some music with the message (like we usually do)
And we’ll discuss our big dreams
How we plan to take over the planet
So pardon my manners, I hope you’ll understand
That I’ll be here
Not there in the kitchen with the girl
Who’s always gossiping about her friends
So tell them I’ll be here
Right next to the boy who’s throwing up cause
He can’t take what’s in his cup no more
Oh God why am I here?

What about you – are you secretly an introvert?   Or are you more on the extrovert end of the spectrum?

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Road Trip Memories In London

in Life

*Today I am linking up with Mama Kat’s Writer’s Workshop by answering the prompt: Share a memorable road trip story. 

In honor of several friends traveling in London this summer this is a repost of my family’s mishaps and shenanigans traveling from London to Paris.

Goodbye London? Not So Fast.

Wow we had fun in London!  Although it was time to leave we had a few hours before our Eurostar train left London for Paris, so we went to Covent Gardens to an area called Seven Dials, seven streets of boutiques and fantastic vintage stores. I love vintage stores! Unfortunately we only had a short time to explore before we had to get back to the hotel, collect our luggage and make our 3pm train to Paris. “We have time,” my husband said, and encouraged my son to try on and buy a sweater. By the time we paid for the sweater and got lost finding the tube station we were pushing our time. We had no margin. I believe in margin. I live by margin in my everyday life, preferring to be early rather than late. Margin is crucial while traveling in a foreign country. My husband does not live with margin, he pushes the limits of time. He is always flying out the door, trying to make a flight that leaves in 15 minutes, a whirlwind of forgotten laptop plugs in his wake. Can you guess what happened?

The projected 30 minute tube ride to the train station turned into a 60 minute traffic-clogged taxi ride. When the taxi pulled up to the train station we jumped out, ran/pulled our luggage through the train station and cleared security and customs within 5 minutes. We had a chance to make the train leaving in 3 minutes! The attendant called up to the train to tell them that we were coming; we still had a chance! Except….the elevator was already full with a woman and her luggage…..and it was the last elevator the train conductor allowed up to the platform before pulling out the station.

Yup, we missed our train to Paris.

The ticket agent tried very hard to find seats on the next few trains, but there were no seats available for a family of four. Rather than wait several hours (or maybe even the next day?) for an available train, my husband bit the bullet and bought upgraded tickets for the next train, leaving in only 30 minutes. The First Class car was practically empty (except for one other family with, unfortunately, unruly toddlers and disinterested parents–Bebe’s Kids). Our ticket price also included a delicious snack with red wine for the adults and hot chocolate for the kids. It was a lovely way travel; we were in Paris in just 2.5 hours and only 30 minutes behind schedule. However, it was an expensive reminder to always leave room for margin! It was an adventure and will be a funny story to tell of our vacation…..some day.



Our snack on the Eurostar train, traveling between London and Paris.
Girly reading on the Eurostar train.


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Funki and oh-so-helpful organizing & life-hacking tips by yours truly. Like McGyver, who could dismantle a bomb with a roll of duct tape, a toothpick and a nail file, I am Ma-Gyver, organizer of everything and life-hacker extraordinaire. From time to time I will be bringing you my tips and tricks for keeping an orderly house and mind.

Today I’m linking up to Mama Kat’s Writer’s Workshop by answering the prompt: Something you learned this week.

I know, that sounds so dramatic!  I’m a pretty organized person, so for me that say that, it’s got to be good.  I am always looking for ways to make my home more organized.  Some would think this is anal, but I like to think of organization as freeing; when my physical space is organized it frees my mind to think, dream and create without the clutter of “where did I put my keys.”  So much noise in disorganization.  So much calm and focus in organization.

That’s why when I stumbled across this way of organizing my t-shirt drawer, I tried it right away.


Try it; I guarantee that it will change your (t-shirt) life.

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As Facebook so graciously reminded me, it’s been 2 years since I posted this photo of my son graduating from high school:


I really can’t believe that it’s been that long – it really seems like yesterday!  What a joyful time that was for our family, but also what a stressful and busy time too.   I don’t think I’ve orchestrated a celebration that big since my wedding!   Since we’re in the party throwing season right now, I hope that I can inspire you to make your own DIY party decorations for a graduation celebration, a milestone birthday or even a summer gathering.

Let me say upfront that I am NOT a big DIYer.  I would rather pay for assembled decorations, but since I was already spending a fortune during graduation season (which is also prom and college admission season, so I know you feel me), my desire to save money won over my desire to save time.  All I’m saying that if I can do this, you can do this.  A little planning, some trips to Michael’s and time are all you need to make fabulous DIY party decorations.   My daughter, who spends most of her free time on Pinterest and Etsy, loves DIY projects so she was a big help.

These cupcake toppers are one of the DIY decorations that I made for my son’s graduation party:

Cupcake Toppers

You can read about the rest of my DIY party ideas in the original blog post.   Now go and plan the best party of the season!

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